Friday, April 16, 2010

Life's Little Bumps

Things happen once in a while that we hadn’t planned on, but it’s our perspective on the situation that makes all the difference in the world. We’re supposed to enjoy the journey and sometimes there are bumps in the road. No big deal.

This week I had a little bump – literally – I was rear-ended. Nothing major, not a lot of damage, no injuries. Just a little unnerving and a gave me a little headache. I like to look at the events of my life – good and otherwise – to figure out why I attracted them, because we create, attract and invite every thing that happens to us with our thoughts, energy and feelings. No exceptions. It's the Law of Attraction.

A very insightful friend helped me with this one. It’s been a bit of a tough week emotionally. My mother has emotional meltdowns once in a while – it’s all part of the dementia and Alzheimer’s – but last week was an ongoing series of low days for her, requiring a lot of me to keep her up, happy, active and engaged. So when the weekend came, I really needed the break – it’s my only time with my husband (our Golden Time, as he calls it). My mom is fine taking care of herself for a few days and we have plenty of close neighbors to look in on her and help her out if she needs anything. I always call her to check in, say hello and ask how she’s doing, and last Saturday she seemed fine – laughing about the problems she was having ripping out and starting over on a scarf she was knitting and talking about the movie she was watching. But THEN...

A few hours later, just as we were just about to have dinner (I am doing a cleanse and only get one real meal a day and this was going to be IT…) my mother called crying hysterically saying she was confused and didn’t know what she was doing and wanted me to come home. Now I try to be the loving daughter, living with and taking care of my ailing mother, always trying to be there when she needs me, but this was supposed to be my time to take care of myself and spend the only time I get during the week with my husband. In addition, we are all the way on the other side of town, over the hill these days. I was furious. And I felt bad and guilty about being furious. But still, I was pissed and I couldn’t shake it. I had our neighbors go check on her and stay with her until we could get there. She never knows why she is upset. She’s usually just bored, or she’s been watching too much depressing stuff on TV or some other random thing could set her off. I never know. She never knows. So we sat with her, talked to her, calmed her down, I gave her her evening insulin shot and her special sugar-free ice cream that is her treat after the shot every night. When she was feeling better, I finally got her to bed and we went home and ate our dinner at 10:00pm. Thank God my husband is as understanding and patient as he is – he loves my mother and knows that these episodes happen once in a while.

As upset as I was about this, I wanted to burst into tears and release all my frustration over this situation – the fact that I am now the mother in this relationship, that my primary responsibility these days is taking care of my mom and that I can only do so much for my work and my career right now and that I only have two days a week with my husband. Usually I’m fine but every so often I reach my own breaking point. And I am usually really good about making time to have a big ol’ boo hoo and cry my eyes out once in a while just to have the emotional release since it is so very necessary and feels so good. But I was too tired, too depleted to even expend the effort to cry, so I put it off. A few other emotional issues came up early in the week that I wanted to cry over but once again, I just didn’t have the time or the energy, so again, I put it off. And then BAM! Rear-ended. It was a freak situation – the guy behind me hit his accelerator instead of his brake. But the Universe just gave me a big nudge to get my attention to remind me to release all this accumulated emotional stuff and take care of myself. I’m embarrassed to say that I haven’t had much time to do that this week, but now that it’s Friday, after I finish my busy day, which will be at 9:00pm tonight, my husband will pick me up and we will have our weekend of Golden Time, and I will enjoy every minute, and I will take care of myself and let my husband take care of me too.

There can be a lot to learn and appreciate from the little bumps. Look at yours and figure out why you attracted them and how you can better take care of yourself.

Wishing you a beautiful weekend, full of fun, self-love and smooth roads ahead!

Lots of love -
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Monday, April 5, 2010

Spring Cleaning!

It's April already - I can't believe this year is flying by so fast! What better time to look at clearing out clutter from your home, your body and your mind than spring? It just feels good after a long, cold winter - the weather is getting warmer and we want to shed anything that we feel has weighed us down - heavy clothing, extra weight, heavy emotions. It's a time of feeling light and free and stepping into a new time of the year.

I have been doing quite a bit of cleaning in the last week. I had a professional stylist, Brett Ellen (The Closet Concierge) come over and help me go through my closets and get rid of everything I don't want, need or wear anymore. She helped me create new outfits from what I already have with a few simple additions. It's a great analogy for what we can do with our lives - get rid of stuff, emotions, situations and even people that don't serve you anymore and make room for new and better things and people to come into your life.

We can clean up so many areas of our lives that will help us move forward and grow. Such as -

People - did you know that you are a combination of the qualities of the five people you spend the most time with? Really think about that for a minute. Do you have friends who spend most of their time complaining that nothing ever goes right for them, they're never happy, they're usually broke...etc? If you don't want their energy to influence your experience, I suggest you spend less time with them or even disconnect from them completely. They are not adding to your life in any kind of positive way.

On the other hand, do you have friends who are always up and happy with positive expectations for themselves and for you? These people are generally happy and content with their lives, they make the most of and appreciate what they have and they are a joy to be around. These are the people you want to spend more time with. Remember, you are acquiring their qualities, attributes, attitudes and even income level, whether you realize it or not. A good general rule to follow with friends is this - if they add to your life in a positive way, nurture those relationships. If they drain your energy and seem determined to prove how bad life is all the time, step away from them.

If there are qualities you would like to have or experiences you would like to incorporate into your life, find new friends who embody what you would like to include in your experience and develop relationships with them. It will eventually rub off on you one way or another.

This is a good time for physical cleansing as well. We all start thinking about our bodies when the weather gets warmer. We want to eat lighter and get outside and move. I'm actually doing a cleanse right now with Isagenix, and it is unlike any I have ever done before. It's a whole body cleanse on the cellular level and I have been feeling great! Some strict cleanse days have been tough but overall I feel great and I can feel the difference it's making in my body and mind.

I also went to see an amazing medical intuitve, Amy Startari who helped me clear out a lot of old energy from my body. It's amazing what (or who) we hang on to, energetically and psychically that can have an effect on our physical bodies. I felt so much lighter and more energized after our session together! If you're interested in working with Amy, (which I highly recommend) she can be reached at

Your mind is a great thing to clean out once in a while too. We let so many negative and unproductive thoughts clutter our minds that it serves us well to examine our thoughts regularly and clean them up. If you have any negative thoughts about yourself, your life or things you don't want, turn them around into positive affirmations about what you do want. Examine your thoughts regularly and make sure they are serving your highest good and not working toward your detriment.

You're off to a great start with your Spring Cleaning -
Clear out your surroundings of clutter;
Clear out negative people from your life;
Cleanse your physical body;
Clear out negative, unproductive thoughts from your mind.

You're on your way to a happy, healthy, productive spring and summer - enjoy!

Lots of love,
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