Monday, December 5, 2011

Holiday Joy or Holiday Stress?


Are you feeling excited about the holidays finally arriving and looking forward to all the fun traditions you always enjoy?


Or are you starting to feel the pressure of your holiday “To-Do” list? Do you feel yourself rushing to get things done and not really enjoying this time of year like you used to?



To help you get a head start on your holiday plans and minimize your stress this season, I’m giving you an early present – my free ebook,
“Your Holiday Survival Guide.”



You can access it here:
http://www.living-peacefully.com/Products_and_Services.html

That's it - a short but sweet message for you today. 

Relax, (when you can) stay present and enjoy the journey this season!

Much love,
Tanna


Living Peacefully ™ is written by Tanna Marshall, Author, Holistic Consultant, Energy Healer and Personal Coach. If you have any questions or would like more information about Living Peacefully, please contact:
Tanna@living-peacefully.com
www.living-peacefully.com
To purchase your copy of Living Peacefully in a Big City, please visit
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Wednesday, November 23, 2011

Gratitude or Gravy?


There are a lot of articles and posts on Facebook and Twitter this week about what people are thankful for, and that is wonderful to see. We’re so fortunate in this country to have a holiday that causes us to pause and think about what we’re grateful for.

Or is it just a day to stuff ourselves?

Obviously, we all look forward to a delicious Thanksgiving dinner with all the traditional dishes – I’m sure you have your favorite – most likely concluding with a pumpkin pie or some dessert of pumpkin origin followed by a food coma. I know a lot of people look forward to the football games that will be on TV.

Some people just look forward to the four day weekend as a welcome respite from their busy schedules and a time to catch their breath before all the big holiday events begin.

Often we just float through this day as another tradition that doesn’t mean any more to us than any other day off. Some of you may be dreading the obligatory appearance at a family gathering that will be full of stress and drama.

Some of you may have no family nearby, no time or money to get home or perhaps no family at all. I’m always happy to see my California transplant friends get together for an “Orphan Thanksgiving”.

If you have nowhere to go, and you feel so inclined, you could help out at a homeless shelter, feeding those who don’t have much and making connections that will mean so much to someone else. Or you could find an elderly person to visit who would otherwise be spending the holiday alone. You can make this a Thanksgiving to remember if it is your intention is to do so.

Whatever your plans are tomorrow, whether it’s a dinner you’re looking forward to for the company or the food (or both), or if you’ll be numbly counting the minutes until you can leave wherever you are obligated to be, or you don’t have any plans at all – take a moment to stop and think of what you are thankful for. It’s a holiday – you don’t have to work and most likely you have Friday to yourself as well so there should be some time in there for a moment of genuine gratitude.

If you can’t seem to think of much to be grateful for, let me help you – Do you have your health? Do you have a home, a bed to sleep in, clothes to wear and food to eat? Do you have people in your life who love and support you? Do you have a job? Do you have a car? Do you have money in the bank? Do you have activities that you enjoy? Do you have a strong belief system that keeps you going? Do you have hopes and dreams for the future?

If you answered “Yes” to any of these – be thankful for that. There is always a blessing somewhere in our lives, even when we think we have nothing. Think of the less fortunate who don’t have the luxury of a traditional meal in a nice home. And I would bet that you would still find that they are grateful for what they do have, even if it doesn’t seem like much.

Enjoy your day, however you are spending it, whomever you will be with, whether you are looking forward to it or not, and make sure to include some “thanks” in your Thanksgiving.

I wish you a day of gratitude, gravy and many blessings this holiday season.
Much love,
Tanna


Living Peacefully ™ is written by Tanna Marshall, Author, Holistic Consultant and Personal Coach. If you have any questions or would like more information about Living Peacefully, please contact:
Tanna@living-peacefully.com
www.living-peacefully.com
To purchase your copy of Living Peacefully in a Big City, please visit
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Friday, November 11, 2011

Be Responsible for Your Energy

Today is a great day to examine your energy – this high-powered day, 11/11/11, is so fully charged and millions of people are taking to really feel it and make shifts toward more positive thoughts and feelings.

It also happens to be Veteran’s Day so please take a moment to be grateful to all those who have served our country to keep it the land of the free and the home of the brave.

For those of you watching Oprah’s Lifeclass on OWN, you may remember the class that was all about being responsible for the energy you bring everywhere you go. She even has a sign in her make-up room to remind everyone who enters to be responsible for the energy they bring into her space. Wouldn't it be nice if everyone were responsible for their energy?

How often do we really think about the energy we bring with us when we are with others, entering their homes, their workspaces or just their personal space? We know when we feel the energy of those who enter our space and whether it is positive or negative. Or we could say, whether it feels good or feels bad to us. That is a great, simple indicator of what resonates with you on the highest level – does it feel good or not?

This also ties into the Lifeclass about the scientific effects of energy from a physics perspective: What you put out comes back to you. Like attracts like. Newton’s Third Law of Motion: Every action has an equal and opposite reaction. It’s the Law of Attraction. It’s not woo woo spiritual stuff, it is scientific fact.

If you’d like a visual to help understand the basic truth and power behind your words and emotions, check out Dr. Emoto’s water crystal photos – a few of which are pictured above. Pretty powerful, isn't it?

It’s always helpful to examine what you are attracting, especially if you’re not happy with it. If you don’t like what’s happening in your life, take a good look at yourself and your habitual thoughts and beliefs. The thing to remember is that the common denominator in your life is YOU. So ask yourself, what are you putting out there to attract experiences that you don’t want and are not enjoying? Many people don’t want to take that responsibility and will even become angry and defensive when the idea is presented to them. They prefer to stay in a blaming mentality and that’s OK – not everyone is ready to understand these principles yet. Hopefully someday they will, for their own sake.

When you do take responsibility, you free yourself from being a victim of the behavior of others and unwanted situations. Instead, you empower yourself to create the life you want with the knowledge that your thoughts and emotions generate the energy you are sending out into the world. Whatever you put out will come back to you in some form or another, so be mindful of your attitude and expectations.

We have become so accustomed to having a knee-jerk reaction to anything we find unpleasant that we lose all our power. We take everything personally and feel that the world is being totally uncooperative and is working against us. The key word here is “reaction.” This usually happens without our even thinking – we just lash out when we feel threatened or unjustly treated. We make it all about us.

When you slow down and become more thoughtful about what comes up for you, and then make a conscious decision to decide how (or if) you want to respond to a situation, you have just taken back your power and mastered your own life.

So if this makes no sense to you and makes you angry, that’s OK, just let it go. But if you want to take responsibility for creating what you really want to attract and experience in your life, learn as much as you can about how energy and the Law of Attraction work. You can stop being a victim and become the master of your reality.

Which feels better?

Much love,
Tanna

Living Peacefully ™ is written by Tanna Marshall, Author, Holistic Consultant and Personal Coach. If you have any questions or would like more information about Living Peacefully, please contact:
Tanna@living-peacefully.com
www.living-peacefully.com
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Monday, October 31, 2011

What's Your Favorite Scary Movie?


After watching "Scream 4" (among many other horror movies this past weekend), I heard that line way too many times. But it was part of the scary fun....well, for the audience at least.

I have always loved Halloween and more specifically, horror movies. I was watching the scariest, goriest films out there by the time I was six. I have no idea why it fascinated me so much, but it did and never bothered me or gave me nightmares. I remember when I was twelve a neighbor had the Z Channel (anyone remember when there was only ONE cable movie channel?) so I went over and watched “The Exorcist” three nights in a row. I know - what's wrong with that 12 year old?

Later on I was more into the slasher movies because I wanted to be a make-up artist specializing in gore. I loved to see all the different scenarios and wondered how they made it look so real. I didn’t become a professional make-up artist, but I lived out that fantasy every Halloween, coming up with the grossest and scariest costumes I could think of – dead school girl, dead prom queen, dead saloon girl, (dead was a big theme, always the result of violence with lots of blood) vampire, victim of vampire, bad knife-thrower’s assistant…etc. I also brought all my make-up to work to give anyone who wanted a little gore a bullet wound, a slashed throat, a black eye or a spike in the head. So much fun!

My boss at that time, Adam, always let me do his costume and make-up. One year he went into his boss’ office for a meeting, forgetting about the make-up and nearly gave the guy a heart attack – he thought Adam had really been in a bloody accident. I love it!

I also used to frequent Knott’s Scary Farm with my friends – we went every year for 15 years. We always had a blast being scared out of our wits. But eventually I began to think, “Aaaah - too many teenagers everywhere!” Yikes – I used to be one of those teenagers! I knew my time with that tradition was done, but it was scary fun while it lasted.

Why do we love the creepiness of Halloween? Probably for the same reason we love rollercoasters – it’s a thrill, it scares us, but ultimately we know we are safe. It’s fun to explore our dark sides with no lasting effects – just finish watching the movie or take off the costume and wash off the make-up.

Or are there lasting effects?

A while ago I began noticing that these horrific images began lingering in my consciousness. I found myself dreaming about the most recent horror movie I had just watched. I began having dreams about the unearthly face from “The Exorcist” – silently watching me, menacing. That freaked me out.

So began the habit of the happy movie after the horror movie to even out my brain. Even this past weekend of having a horror movie marathon with my husband really messed up my energy and put me in a dark place emotionally. Thank goodness for Tivo'd episodes of Oprah's Lifeclass to significantly raise my vibration back up where it belongs. I've detoxed in the last few years so much from scary, disturbing movies that they greatly affect me now more than ever. I think next year I'll stick to "It's The Great Pumpkin Charlie Brown!".

This negative eeriness all came to a head a few years ago one Halloween when I was going to attempt my greatest feat make-up wise – Regan of the unearthly face. My eye doctor does special effect contact lenses for movies and actually made the ones that Linda Blair wore in the movie. Since then he’s done just about every vampire movie and anything else requiring special effects with the eyes. So I got a pair of scary, yellow, red-rimmed contacts from him, (in the photo here) and began studying photos of the face online. I needed to know all the little details that you wouldn’t be aware of unless you really looked.

I began feeling uneasy and creeped out at night in my apartment – had I invited dark forces into my energy field with the planning of this costume? I couldn’t wait for Halloween to be over so I could take my attention off of the scary face.

Then one night I had a dream that shook me to my core. Now, I am a Christian, but not hard-core – I believe Jesus was one of the greatest spiritual teachers who ever lived and I aim to live a good life and follow his teachings. So when I had a dream where Jesus came to me and asked, “Why do you want to emulate something so evil?” I was so freaked out that I immediately abandoned the idea. When Jesus speaks to you so directly and clearly, you listen.

A friend at work then requested that I do it on her since she was an atheist. I did do the make-up on her and she won the costume contest at the office Halloween party. So mission accomplished, ultimately.

My point is, even when you're just having fun, always be aware of what energy you are inviting into your experience and what images you are putting into your subconscious. Limit the safe scares to what is fun but will not leave a negative, lasting impression on your psyche. On a regular basis, make sure to fill your heart, mind and spirit with uplifting, happy, positive, inspirational images, information and people. You don’t want any underlying negativity to attract people or situations that you don’t want to invite into your experience.

That said, have a safe (in every aspect) and Happy Halloween!

With love,
Tanna

Living Peacefully ™ is written by Tanna Marshall, Author, Holistic Consultant and Personal Coach. If you have any questions or would like more information about Living Peacefully, please contact:
Tanna@living-peacefully.com
www.living-peacefully.com
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Thursday, October 20, 2011

Traffic Talk

I recently got a new license plate, which I love. (Pictued here) Let me tell you how I finally arrived at this message after many plate changes…

I have always had personalized plates – even before I started driving. When my parents bought a new car when I was 11, I asked if we could get personalized plates, so they got “4 Tanna”. I know – I’m spoiled. Of course, the plates were transferred to my first car when I was 16 – my dream car, a metallic blue ’75 superbeetle named “Elliott”. (I got him right after I’d seen E.T.) I even wrote a song about my love affair with Elliott when I had a singing duo with my friend Stacey in the early 1990’s.

I enjoyed having a personal plate and usually had a custom frame to send yet another message out to my fellow drivers. I think the first one I had read, “Have you hugged Tanna today?”

Eventually, I got tired of strangers calling out my name acting as if they knew me so I got new plates when I was going through my Doors phase. I was in my early twenties, exploring my spirituality and I became fascinated with Jim Morrison’s poetry and songwriting. So my next plate was both a tribute and a message to others – “BKNTHRU”. Translation, “Break On Through” as in, “…to the other side”. I wanted LUVME2X but it was taken. I actually passed that person on the road once.

People had a hard time understanding what my plate meant so soon after when I began doing energy healing and became a licensed massage therapist, immersed in the world of alternative health and healing, my new plate was “MJK TCH” (Magic Touch). I tried to be very phonetically descriptive but again, people didn’t always get it. Often they thought it meant “Magic Teacher”.

A few years later I became fully immersed in my lifelong love of the Beatles and a phrase that I have used for many occasions in my life – All You Need Is Love. At this time, there were new symbols we could have on our plates - a hand, a star, a plus sign or a heart – yay! This time my plate was ALLUND(heart). And just to clarify for others, I had a plate frame that plainly spelled out “All You Need Is Love”. Most people still didn’t get it. Some did, but not many. *Sigh*

Unfortunately, I had a bad car accident, totaling my car and those plates were smashed. Being so traumatized by the accident, I never picked up the new replacement plates. For the first time in my life, I had generic plates on my new car. In a way, it was nice to be a bit anonymous, but after a few years, I felt like a medium of communication was being wasted, especially on the road where people tend to get angry and frustrated and really need a bit of inspiration.

So I pondered many options – the DMV has a great resource on their website where you can see what your desired plate would actually look like and find out if it’s available. Check it out - it's fun! https://www.dmv.ca.gov/ipp2/initPers.do

I played with many versions of Living Peacefully, Inner Peace, Peaceful, etc…I wanted my message to relate to my business and my intention to serve the world by helping others reconnect with their inner peace. And I wanted it to be easy to understand.

I finally found the phrase that made me feel good and was a message I would be happy and proud to drive around displaying – “Relax – Ah”. And my frame now reads, “Thank You For Your Kindness”, affirming my expectation that I am always surrounded by kind, courteous drivers and as I aim to do the same for everyone around me. I always have a pleasant driving experience – you attract what you put out!

I love this message because just knowing that I have it on my car also reminds me, first of all, to breathe. Every time I look at it or even think about it, I find myself taking a deep, cleansing breath, and I hope it does the same for other drivers who see it. It also keeps me conscious to walk my talk and be an example of the thought I am sending out.

If you have a personalized license or frame, be mindful of the message and the energy you are sending out with your words. A lot of people will read it and it will affect their energy. So please use your powers for good instead of evil :) 

We all need a little kindness and words of encouragement, especially stuck in traffic or during a long commute. The most important thing you can do while driving is to relax. Be the best person you can be on the road. Don’t take things personally. Let it go. Understand that people who are in a hurry or cutting you off or not letting you in are going through their own stress, it's really not about you. So send them a good thought for a great day.

Make a point of filling your car with love and good vibes every time you get behind the wheel, and send that good energy out to everyone around you on the road. If you do this with the right attitude, I can assure you that you will always have an easy, pleasant drive.

Have a nice drive today!
Much love,
Tanna

Living Peacefully ™ is written by Tanna Marshall, Author, Holistic Consultant and Personal Coach. If you have any questions or would like more information about Living Peacefully, please contact:
Tanna@living-peacefully.com
www.living-peacefully.com
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Thursday, October 6, 2011

The View From the Hammock

OK obviously, I am in love with my hammock. We spend a lot of quality time together, mostly during warm weather, and if I don’t get outside for my special time, I feel it.

I love the view from my hammock – I always think that would be a nice title for a daily weather report. This is the actual view from my hammock today – it’s beautiful and clear in LA after a stormy day yesterday. It’s getting colder but the sun is still warm, so there will still be Hammocktime! (I always put this to MC Hammer’s “Hammertime” in my head)

I try to get out and spend some time, not only to relax, meditate, align with my spirit and reconnect with nature, but also for my daily dose of Vitamin D from the sun. There is something about relaxing in this particular spot – it could be that I’m surrounded by so much beautiful, lush greenery, a swaying palm tree, birds, butterflies and bees humming around doing their thing – or it could be my personal philosophy about why a hammock is so comfortable and conducive to total relaxation: I believe that being somewhat cocooned and totally supported while you rock back and forth may remind us of the same experience when we were babies. When we had no worries, no cares; everyone else took care of all of our wants and needs, we weren’t concerned about our body image or if we anyone liked us or if we were going to succeed…life was just simple and happy. For most. It may sound crazy but that’s my personal belief. Or it may be that we just associate it with a tropical beach and a Corona. Both make sense to me.

Sadly, it’s not so comfortable or relaxing to be outside when it’s cold, so we will have winter hiatus. I could get an indoor hammock, just as my brother has had for many years. Two hooks on either side of the family room are always on standby if they decide to bring out the hammock. But alas, mine is strictly the outdoor variety. Relaxing, meditating, aligning with spirit and reconnecting with nature will move indoors to my office with my spiritual alter and small coconut palm. Vitamin D will have to be supplemented.

As you will notice, there are a few not-so-relaxing elements in the area – a clothesline directly above me (which I use to drape vinyl over to shade myself when it gets too hot…handy!) or the other wires running diagonally across my view. That is actually an interesting story -

Those are telephone lines from the telephone pole in the corner of our backyard. When my parents first bought this house in 1949, (they looked at a model and put down $10 and moved in to their newly-built home two months later…hello…can we say “equity”??) the phone situation was much different than it is now. They had party lines (for those of you who are too young to know, everyone had to share a phone line in a neighborhood, much like extensions on a phone in one house, i.e. “Can you please hang up soon? I need to make a call”). And beyond that fact, some people didn’t even have a phone. I know…I’ll give you a moment to recover from the shock.

However, my father was a policeman, so he had to have a phone. Hence, the telephone pole landed in our backyard and we were the first in the neighborhood to have a phone. So I actually don’t mind seeing the wires – it reminds me of the long history my family has in this house.

My special little meditation spot in our backyard is behind the garage and surrounded by tall ficus trees, giant bird of paradise and pink hibiscus so it’s very secluded and private. It’s is truly my little oasis. I’m a bit sad that I won’t be spending as much time out there as the weather gets colder, but believe me, I when the sun is out and warm enough, you can bet I will be out there enjoying my precious Hammocktime! I may have to put up some hooks in my office…hmmmmm....although, it's not quite the same without the clothesline and phone phone wires.

That said, I highly recommend to anyone who is seeking some quality relaxation -  Get a hammock! And enjoy your own view, wherever that may be.

Wishing you a beautiful, relaxing day…
With love,
Tanna


Living Peacefully ™ is written by Tanna Marshall, Author, Holistic Consultant and Personal Coach. If you have any questions or would like more information about Living Peacefully, please contact:
Tanna@living-peacefully.com
www.living-peacefully.com
To purchase your copy of "Living Peacefully in a Big City", please visit
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Thursday, September 29, 2011

Ginger Tea, OTC Drugs and a Hammock


OK so rest didn’t exactly do it for me on Monday…I did indeed get sick, which was surprising, since I was only a bit run down. I’m pretty good at catching myself when I feel out of balance and doing whatever I need to do to regain that balance. But my body had other plans this week. I always try to pay attention to what’s going on in my body and get the message it’s trying to convey. I guess this week the message was, “Cancel more appointments and rest”. *Sigh*

When I get really sick, it’s usually starts out with a sore throat, then progresses into horrible sinus congestion and pain, concluding with painful chest congestion and horrific, painful expulsion of mucus. Sorry, I know, gross.

Because I am a Holistic Consultant, I like to use natural remedies and prevention to keep myself healthy. When I find something that works well for me, I like to share the information to help others in the same situation. But once in a while, I will get the usual above-mentioned severe cold and need a little additional help.

This time it really snuck up on me – it started with barely a sore throat, which I used Sovereign Silver to treat. (www.sovereignsilver.com I highly recommend keeping this on hand for a myriad of health issues) I felt pretty good on day two so I did my morning workout, and went to the market to stock up on food for my new eating plan from The Belly Fat Cure, Fast Track by Jorge Cruise. But as the day wore on, I felt worse and worse. I know at this point the best remedy is rest – you can sleep off just about any illness if you catch it early enough. I was also craving ginger tea. (Slice fresh ginger into some water, boil, add honey or stevia and yum!) This had an unexpected beneficial effect – being a natural expectorant, the ginger prevented the cold from going into my chest, which is always the worst part, requiring me to sit in a steam shower to loosen and painfully cough up the grossness I already mentioned.

But I must confess that I did resort to the only over-the-counter drug I use in extreme situations – decongestants. I always wait too long, wanting to walk my talk and rely on natural remedies. But finally, as always, I gave in when my head and sinuses felt like they were going to explode and I couldn’t get any of my coveted rest because I was in so much pain and couldn’t breathe.

I hate to say it, but I have tried every natural cold remedy I could find in my many years of research and education, and my conclusion is…they don’t work well. Or quickly. Unfortunately, that is the nature of healing naturally – it takes a little longer since you are actually healing and not just covering up symptoms. But at this point, I need relief from the symptoms so I could function. Taking care of my mom when I’m feeling crappy is not easy. And being Mom, she feels bad and wants to take care of me. The intentions are good but she can’t really do much for me. I don’t know how moms do it with their kids. Thank goodness for senior day care!

I am happy to report that with the aid of some harsh chemicals, my head has cleared up a bit (although I feel totally groggy, but I’m just going to enjoy that for now :) and this has not progressed to my chest thanks to the ginger tea. And I also believe that my new eating plan helped my body stave off the severe symptoms I’m used to.

One final treatment that is incredibly healing for me is getting outside and spending time in my hammock. Being outside, breathing fresh air, getting some sun and enjoying the relaxing, rocking swinging of the hammock give me the zoned-out rest I have been so desperately in need of. I highly recommend a hammock for general relaxation, but when you’re not feeling well, there’s really nothing like it.

I hope my week of misery has given you some helpful information to refer to should you find yourself in a similar situation. But if you listen to your body, get enough rest, eat well and maintain a positive frame of mind, you’ll maintain your balance and feel great.

Wishing you a happy, healthy, restful weekend!

With love,
Tanna

Living Peacefully ™ is written by Tanna Marshall, Author, Holistic Consultant and Personal Coach. If you have any questions or would like more information about Living Peacefully, please contact:
Tanna@living-peacefully.com
www.living-peacefully.com
To purchase your copy of Living Peacefully in a Big City, please visit
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Monday, September 26, 2011

Let Go.....


I shouldn’t be writing this blog today, according to the intention behind my topic.

I’ve been so busy, had so much to do, been booked with back-to-back appointments and now I’m feeling run down. Today I plan to rest and let my body refresh and heal itself. But I still want to get my message out to you today…then I will rest.

I’m sure many of you can relate when I say that I often find myself pushing to get things done, especially in my business. And I know, intellectually, emotionally, spiritually and energetically that this is completely counterproductive. My goal is to live a happy, healthy, peaceful, fulfilled life and help others do the same. But I often get off track with the “trying”, the "doing" and the “shoulding”. I'm forgetting about just "Being". 

We have been taught that you have to work hard, strive, struggle and climb your way to the top. Granted, many people have done this and enjoyed the fruits of their labors. But they usually maintain this attitude of continual pushing forward to get ahead and stay in a state of stress, never really enjoying their accomplishments.

Then there is a more enlightened group, (many of my teachers, mentors and coaches make up this group) who know that life was not meant to be a struggle, it was meant to be easy and that your energy is everything. It is the force in your life that determines who you are, what you attract and how you enjoy both of those elements. Your energy either easily attracts or repels the things you want. This is the basis of the Law of Attraction that everyone is aiming to master. But most of the time, we don’t really get it.

We try…oh we try so hard! We write our affirmations, we do our visualizations with the energy of “I have to make this happen!” , while very often our ego is behind the desire, not our higher self.

Why do you want what you want? Because you genuinely feel you will be happier because of it or because of how it will look to others? Or both?

I’m sure you’ve heard stories about people who worked very hard toward a goal with little to nothing to show for it and finally they gave up. The moment they let go, things suddenly began to happen for them. They already had a very strong intention out in the Universe of what they wanted, but they were pushing so hard to make it happen that they were actually pushing it away. The underlying feeling is usually, “I don’t have it yet!!! Must try harder…Must do more!” A good example is the couple who tries for years to conceive a child and finally give up and adopt, only to find themselves pregnant shortly thereafter.

We’ve all heard the saying, “Let go, Let God.” Doesn’t just the thought of letting go give you a feeling of relief? That the amazing, brilliant Universal energy is making it happen on your behalf and you don’t have to wear yourself out taking all kinds of action? Let’s all breathe a collective sigh of relief with that knowledge…

Really…let it out…Aaaahhhhhh….

How about we all make our goal today to stay focused on the feeling of what we want and let go of the “How”s. Let’s relax, knowing there are benevolent forces at work on our behalf. Just trust and have faith. For today, let go and enjoy what comes.

Much love,
Tanna

Living Peacefully ™ is written by Tanna Marshall, Author, Holistic Consultant and Personal Coach. If you have any questions or would like more information about Living Peacefully, please contact:
Tanna@living-peacefully.com
www.living-peacefully.com
To purchase your copy of Living Peacefully in a Big City, please visit
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Tuesday, September 13, 2011

Messages from Beyond...


(I wrote this blog a few days ago before I found out that a dear friend and former colleague from Capitol Records passed away last weekend. My Capitol family and I were shocked and saddened by the news, so now this message feels especially appropriate.)

Ever since my father passed away eight years ago, he has been faithfully communicating with me in many ways, just as I asked him to before he died.

Many of his messages come through random songs I might hear anywhere – on the radio, playing in a store or restaurant, etc…

Some of the songs have emotional significance that connect us, for example, “What a Wonderful World” by Louis Armstrong. I used this song at the end of the video I made for my parents’ 50th wedding anniversary. But other songs my father never heard, or would not have liked if he did. But that doesn’t matter – what is important is that I feel the emotional hit when he is trying to get my attention.

One of my favorite songs that has always invoked his presence very strongly is “You’ll Be In My Heart” by Phil Collins. Now, I only knew this song from the Disney movie “Tarzan” soundtrack. It was only recently I looked it up on youtube.com to send it to a friend when I saw that the subject matter of the video had nothing whatsoever to do with Tarzan. I was actually pretty blown away by it. Check it out below.

If you have lost a loved one and ever feel their presence, watch this video and you will understand the very thin veil that lies between us. And whenever you feel someone might be trying to connect with you, don’t ever doubt it: they are.
Enjoy and stay open ~
With love,
Tanna


With love to Denise, wherever you are - xo

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Thursday, September 8, 2011

Got Divine Guidance?

Not all of us are as fortunate as George Bailey from It's a Wonderful Life to have a guardian angel or spirit guide physically show up to enlighten us about our lives.

But rest assured, you have an abundance of guidance available to you all the time…we all do...but most of the time we miss it. We either aren’t aware of it, we’re not seeing it, we can't hear it or we get it and don’t recognize it.

I’m sure there have been times when you felt an inner nudge, or saw or heard something that seemed to resonate with you and provide some information or answer that you needed. But if you’re not used to receiving guidance, you’ll be going through life without this rudder that can help you easily and effortlessly navigate your way through life.

If you make an intention to be aware and on the lookout for guidance, your life will change in amazing, miraculous ways. It makes all the difference when you know you have divine support at all times to help you every step of the way on your earthly journey. Now the real work is learning to recognize, understand and follow the guidance. So you do you know when you’re receiving guidance? Easy – ALL THE TIME! You just  have to let go of expectations and limitations you might place on how messages and information show up for you. Let me give you some examples and I bet you will have past experiences with at least one.

Guidance often comes in dreams - your consciousness is more receptive, and it’s easier for spirit guides, angels and loved ones to communicate with you. Messages can also come as feelings, an inner knowing or an idea that suddenly pops into your head. You might see a license plate that speaks to you. Or a billboard, songs on the radio, overheard conversations, publication headlines, something on TV or in a movie….the possibilities (and the messages) are endless.

The problem is that most of the time we can't hear the guidance because of our mind chatter. The way we overcome the chatter is to make time during your day to stop and get quiet and just listen. Regular quiet time allows the voices, feelings and ideas to come to the forefront so you see, hear or feel them. You create the space to receive information.
During this quiet time, you can also ask questions or voice any problems you need help resolving.

When you feel you have received information, don’t doubt it! If you think you’re just talking to yourself, maybe you are. Does it really matter? As long as you are receiving some kind of guidance, don’t question where it came from, just follow it and take action.

Now, this is the most powerful thing you can do in your life – take inspired action. When you spin your wheels taking all kinds of desperate, ego-based action, trying to make things happen from a place of fear or trying to force things, you won’t get very far. And even if you do, you’ll be exhausted and not very happy on a soul level. Inspired action takes a lot less effort because things just begin happening easily for you. The right people and opportunities will be drawn to you at the perfect time in ways you never could have imagined. When you live your life this way and look back at the series of serendipitous events, you will see how things happen in ways you never even thought of. This is when you really begin to understand the awesome power of the Universe to direct your life.

When you get into the habit of receiving guidance in the silence, you’ll find you receive it (or simply recognize it) much more often. You can live your life being divinely guided all day every day - many people do.

One of my favorite teachers, Sonia Choquette, lives this way and teaches others to do the same. If you’d like to learn more about connecting with your spirit guides, please check out Sonia at www.soniachoquette.com. She has excellent programs to help you connect with spirit guides, angels, and loved ones. Why not learn how to make your life an effortless adventure with the many unseen guides just waiting around to help you?

I cannot tell you how much this has changed my life – I see and feel messages everywhere, all the time. I feel loved and supported in everything I do, living an inspired life with integrity and joy. When I trust and follow this guidance, things always work out for my highest good, often in ways that leave me amazed at the process.

Try it – get quiet, get clear and open yourself up to receive all the guidance available to help you live the life of your dreams. Be on the lookout for messages that speak to you. Practice staying alert and aware. Make it a habit and watch your life transform in miraculous ways.

You may not have an angel just like Clarence, but you have many of your own guides, angels and loved ones just waiting eagerly and lovingly to help you along your earthly journey. Go help someone earn their wings :)

Much love,
Tanna
Living Peacefully ™ is written by Tanna Marshall, Author, Holistic Consultant and Personal Coach.
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Thursday, August 25, 2011

Tune into Your Own Truth

Sometimes we get so caught up in our busy work and what we feel we “should” be doing that we lose sight of our truth. I have spent several years, it seems like, in this mode.

Thanks to the advice of a wise coach I am working with, (thanks Beth!) I took a step back from my business and took all the pressure off myself with everything I have been working so hard toward this year.

Ironically, even though I have been devoting myself to these new endeavors, and I have accomplished quite a lot, at times it’s been slow going. Often it's difficult to fully focus on my business when my primary role is being my mother's full-time caregiver. But I love what I do, I love my clients and I love the new projects I'm working on. Even so, sometimes you need to take a step back to find out what your truth is and what might be holding you back before you can move forward.

This can also be challenging when you have well-meaning people around you telling you what they think you should be doing, asking why things aren’t done or happening yet or pointing out a time frame that they feel is appropriate for you. All this pressure and outside influence can often get you off track and make you doubt yourself.

When I pulled back from my regular coaching business to focus on my projects this year, many people came forward with advice to voice their opinions, coming from their truth  – all well-meaning, mind you, but distracting nonetheless.

You have to learn to disconnect from outside influences. Just say, "Thank you for sharing" to the well-meaning folks, then connect with your inner voice and guidance. This is where your truth is and this is where you will receive the inspiration and ideas to motivate you and move you forward in a way that is right for you.

I love the radio station analogy – if you are vibrating at 105.1 and those telling you what you should be doing are vibrating at 92.3, it won’t feel good to you and it won’t work for you. They can operate from their own frequency and it will work very well for them. You need to tune into your specific frequency so you’ll know what works best for you.

The best way for me to get back in alignment with my higher vibration is to retreat to my second office - my hammock. When I have been at the computer too long and I feel my body tensing up and my energy lagging, I go outside and lay in my hammock, connecting with nature and hearing my inner voice much more clearly. There, I am relaxed, replenished and inspiration comes easily to me. There, I am definitely vibrating at my highest frequency! Then I can resume my work with new ideas, refreshed with renewed energy.

Make time to connect with your inner truth and find out where your own frequency is. This quote from Wayne Dyer says it all: "Become independent of the good opinion of others." Amen!

The next time you feel off or others are trying to sway you from their perspective, opinions and ideas, make time to step away and tune yourself to your individual frequency and you will be more firmly established in the flow of your Truth.

To your high frequency!
With love,
Tanna

Living Peacefully ™ is written by Tanna Marshall, Author, Holistic Consultant and Personal Coach. If you have any questions or would like more information about Living Peacefully, please contact:
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Friday, August 12, 2011

Aging Gracefully and with Dignity

Eight years ago as my father was dying, he asked me to move in with my mother and help take care of her. She didn’t need much caring for at the time, but I believe he was thinking long term, probably thinking forward to the point where we are now. I’m happy to do it – my parents have done everything for me and spoiled me rotten my entire life so this is the least I can do.


Taking care of my mom is not always easy, but I consider it an honor and an adventure in making her life as happy as possible. As I have learned in my caregiver support group, I have two jobs when it comes to Mom – make sure she feels loved and that she feels safe.

Mom is 83, blind in one eye, has early stage Alzheimer’s (or “Old Timers” as she calls it),
dementia, diabetes, high blood pressure, congestive heart failure and arthritis.
I know. All things considered she’s doing really well, in my opinion, and I like to think that I’ve helped her maintain a quality life. We get along really well and enjoy each other’s company. I have assumed the authority role as the mother figure and she is more like my child now and that works just fine. We have developed a daily routine that flows very nicely, always concluding with a Shirley Temple movie before she goes to bed. She's relaxed, knowing that I’m there to take care of her needs and trusting my decisions.

However, there are well-meaning friends and relatives who panic every time she says something odd (which is all the time) and they feel the need to “fix it”. I hear the weird things she says all day every day and it’s nothing to get worked up about. Mom picks up on the vibes of everyone around her and my aim is to make sure she feels relaxed and happy, so I just point out what’s real and correct her without getting upset over something she’s said or done. (OK sometimes I get impatient and frustrated when I’m tired and my tolerance level is very low…but I’m entitled once in a while, right?)

At this stage, I see no point in stressing over what she’s saying. She just needs to be happy, not feeling the need to “perform” to appear OK to everyone. Her only job at this point is to be a sweet old lady, enjoy her knitting, and visit with friends. She goes to senior day care twice a week and has become the welcoming committee and advisor to new participants who are feeling unsure about the situation. This particular day care is paired with a children’s day care, so Mom gets a dose of the little ones (she was a pre-school teacher for 33 years and suffers from child withdrawl, to which I say, “Don’t look at me!”) so this satisfies her innate desire to teach. Kids love her. I know, I used to be one. She is incredibly loving and generous (to a fault – good thing I handle the finances now…)

I like to make sure she still feels like “Mom” as often as possible. I ask her to mend my clothes, make her special tuna salad, kiss my boo-boos and I ask her for her opinion and advice when I need some motherly guidance. She’s still there in her heart, it just doesn’t always make it from her brain to her mouth.

And oh yes – and I am married. I only see my husband on the weekends. I see your raised eyebrows at our unconventional situation….and then I see the thoughtful look come across your face as you think…”Hmmm, that sounds like it might work well…” It does. We have our “golden time” on the weekends while neighbors and family check on Mom while I'm away. In our marriage, we never get sick of each other, that’s for sure! He is so good to my mom and totally supportive of me in my role of caring for her.

Yes there are times when it’s very difficult but as I appreciate my role more and more, I just focus on Mom and the fact that I think she’s got a pretty good life. I feel like I've made a difference.

I never thought this is what I would be doing in my life at this point, but it all works out the way it's supposed to and I'm happy. This is a great example of going with the flow of where life takes you, making the most of what comes your way and enjoying the journey. I am enjoying my journey with Mom, knowing my Daddy is watching over saying, “Thank you, Little Girl. You’re doing a good job.”

May we all age gracefully and have a nice, cushy life where we are well cared for every step of the way.
With love,
Tanna

Living Peacefully ™ is written by Tanna Marshall, Author, Holistic Consultant and Personal Coach.
If you have any questions or would like more information about Living Peacefully, please contact: Tanna@living-peacefully.com 
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Monday, August 1, 2011

I'm Too Tired to Write This Post...

Have you ever been so exhausted that you can’t seem to function? You read your emails and none of it registers? You leave your cell phone in the refrigerator and don’t remember doing it? Your body feels like it weighs a ton and you have to drag it around? You just want to sit and do nothing because you don’t have the energy to do anything else?

Today is one of those days…and I worked out this morning in spite of being extremely tired. Now I'm really exhausted. 

Let me preface – my husband and I had a busy weekend, cleaning out a property for sale that needed to be vacated by yesterday. It was a mad dash to clean out every nook and cranny. Fortunately, we had the help of the people who had been living there so it progressed nicely, but everyone was exhausted.

I cannot even imagine how tired my husband must be feeling today. This was his schedule for the past week – up early in the morning (he is normally a night owl who sleeps from approximately 4am to noon), working all day, clearing out this house of 19 years of stuff, having the emotional devastation of discovering important documents and sentimental valuables have been destroyed by termites and rats in the garage, not eating enough, and to top it off, the night before the last day of packing, having a bad fall that resulted in what is most likely cracked ribs. He needs to sleep for a few days. Or a month.

So my point with today’s post is this: Listen to your body. I am finally back into a regular workout routine and wanted to stick with that, in spite of my body begging me to take a break today and resume tomorrow. Now I can barely function. In my husband's case, was rushing and slipped and fell as a result.

If you don’t listen to these messages, you will get a whisper (exhaustion). If you still don’t listen, you will get a tap on the shoulder (body breaks down and gets sick). If you are still not listening, a brick wall will fall on you to get your attention (injury severe enough to physically make you stop and rest). None of us wants the brick wall, but often, that’s what happens when we don’t listen to and honor the requests made by our bodies.

Let me give you another example – last summer I was dealing with some extremely stressful family issues. It was causing me constant, ongoing anxiety, I wasn’t sleeping well, I was reaching for the Kahlua every night to relax and help me cope, and I wasn’t eating well. I became extremely fatigued. I was out of it for a week with severe exhaustion, so I rested, but the stress and anxiety were still there.

Then I got sick – another week shot. I finally got back on track, continued to deal with the situation as best I could and manage my stress, although the anxiety was still there. I visited a friend whose three-year-old had a runny nose and BAM – I was laid out sick for almost a month. My immune system was shot.

Still doing my best to maintain my daily activities, I was a bit better but then shortly after, I got food poisoning. Laid out for two days. *Sigh* Not feeling great about the example I’m setting for my clients :/ How often do I preach to everyone, “You have to take care of yourself and let your body rest!” Although, I do tell people to just do your best, and at the time, that was my best.

But apparently, I still wasn’t getting the message because a week later, the day before Thanksgiving, I had plans that I really wanted to postpone because I was tired, had so much to do and just wasn’t really up for it. But I went anyway. And I fell. Hard, on my butt. I wound up spraining my sacrum. It was the most painful thing I ever experienced. And I finally got the message…”STOP ALREADY! REST! TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF!!!” That was my brick wall. So I made a point of resting and doing as little as possible during the holidays. I didn’t have much choice, anyway, with an injured back.

And during that time, I got some great inspired ideas and actually decided to take my business in a new direction, which I have spent this year implementing. Which further proves my belief that quiet time is essential to our well-being at all times, regardless of what is going on…or not.

Now I take my time, manage my stress and nip things in the bud so they don’t get out of hand and cause anxiety. I've learned to be a non-reactive observer in most circumstances, and I make sure I have time to rest – often – even if it feels like I’m not getting enough done. Ironically, the more I take care of myself (i.e. take breaks to meditate, relax, read a magazine, have lunch with a friend…) the more productive I am.

So please take care of yourself, listen to your body, give yourself quiet time every day and stop when you are tired or stressed. Believe me, you do not want the brick wall. Everything flows better when you make your well-being a priority.

And now, I am getting off the computer and going out to my hammock to relax.
Have a great day!
With love,
Tanna

Living Peacefully ™ is written by Tanna Marshall, Author, Holistic Consultant and Personal Coach. If you have any questions or would like more information about Living Peacefully, please contact:
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